Regrettably, I wish I could say that I understand why we do the stupidest and self-destructive things we do when it comes to matters of the heart, but I don’t. Look, if what we perceived as the perfect Hollywood power couple, say, Ashton and Demi and they can’t keep it together, then what hope is there for the rest of us less perfect with sags, droops and bulges. Obviously, in her case it’s not the physical but other things like people just tired of each other’s nonsense.
Not a big TV watcher, except for background noise to keep me company. If I am lucky I get to watch a few minutes of a show called Cheaters and the one common denominator in in this show is that hurt parties ceased listening to each other, a complete communication breakdown. Yet, I was completely oblivious to my own cheating partner, why is that.? The red flags were popping up, but I chose to kick them down, the writing on the wall in big red lipstick markings glaring me in the face, but I ignored it, I guess I knew but found it difficult to admit it to myself, you tell me?
Imagine, the day of reckoning, like the people on Cheaters I was taken completely off guard and big surprise, no kidding! If we would only listen when we are so in love, none of the betrayal, embarrassment and hurt would happen or at least be mitigated, but as they say, love is blind and the heart wants what the loins want, sorry brain!
Look, I wish someone had sat my arse down and point out life’s pitfalls and man’s frailty, I guess there are just some things you have to learn on your own, unfortunately, heartbreak is one of them. But, the hardest thing you are going to hear, besides, the death of a loved one, are the things that come of the mouth of a lover or spouse who does not want you anymore; you are going to literally see your eye balls rolling, not in your head, but on the ground running away from you the big idiot; not to mention your heart, it did not even give your dependable hand the pleasure of ripping it out of your chest, it just AWOLed straight into the hog’s trough.
Sadly, like the people on Cheaters, you hear yourself trying to formulate in your head with what little limbic system you may have sputtering ‘Why didn’t you tell me’ and the cheater’s response was always ‘I try telling you but you never listen’. Maybe the people in the East and Africa have it right, more emphasis on the spiritual and less on the physical. In retrospect, Hilary Clinton took a lot of flak from women who thought she should have sent Bill Clinton packing, maybe we should not be so quick to judge and mind our own stuff that we are in denial of being rotten!